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Originally Posted by bj2001holt
The special friend is still a good friend of our but she is in a long term relationship now so there are still girls weekends with some cuddling but no sex is what I am told.
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Great conversation last night, but we need to continue talking. Your sentence I quoted has a tie to our situation, too.
I’m not judging and don’t want to come across that way, so please don’t read it like that. I find it interesting that your friend was comfortable with things even though it sounds like you and your partner are in a long term relationship, but it isn’t if she is in one. Lots of things factor into that, I’m sure. That is a little bit of the concern with us but in a different way. The GF is really concerned about things getting weird between the three of us, which I appreciate. The planning out in advance weighs on her a little, and that we are in a committed relationship came up indirectly.
I’m still kind of surprised about my wife and her GF. They are both confident women, and I’ve rarely seen them act shy. They were not shy about having sex at all once the trigger was pulled, but they both are shy talking about wanting to hook up with each other if that makes sense. I thought she might be struggling with the same sex sexual feelings part of it, but I don’t believe that is the case. I asked her that in a different way, and her response gave me no impression that she has any problem with being with whoever she wants. When I asked her if she often thought about being with my wife, she was totally different and shy. I told her that we talk about my wife being with her and the effect it has, and she got quiet. I had to ask if she was still there. I asked if that bothered her, and she said no. I asked if it excited her a little, and she said yes. When I asked if it excited her a lot, she laughed.
This might not be everyone’s thing, but my wife likes to lick her fingers after playing with herself. I dared her to go to the bathroom at work on Monday, finger herself, and lick her fingers. I told her to close her eyes and txt me later who she fantasized she was tasting. I knew it would be her GF, but I wanted her to say it. I told the GF that, and I think she really liked it! I told her to do the same, and she said, “maybe.”
I talk and txt with her GF all the time, but I feel a little guilty not being exactly upfront with my wife about it. It told her GF that she didn’t know that I was calling about this, but it is something I wouldn’t hide from her. I just didn’t want it to be awkward if she wasn’t interested.