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I'm struggling with the best way to frame this question, so my apologies if it is confusing.

For men who have a partner that enjoys being with another woman or man, do you find that you take the lead in arranging playtime, or does your wife/GF set things up? I'm really curious to hear how guys who have to set it up go about it.

Obviously, finding someone compatible to join you is a huge task, but assuming you've crossed that bridge, I'm curious how successful your attempts are. Is it about 50 percent of the time that it works out? Less or more?

My wife hasn't been interested in a second guy but has played with her girlfriend and really likes it. The three of us played together, and everything has been good. No feelings or jealousy. Her girlfriend doesn't live close by (a few hours away), but they talk and txt multiple times a day. She recently even went on spring break vacation with us (along with another friend and my MIL), and we had a great time.

I obviously think about it a lot and would love for it to happen again, even if I'm not involved. My wife is very interested but hasn't taken steps to set anything up. I'm going to try and set something up for the two of them and offer to sit it out if they want if that is a concern.

I want to be pushy enough to make things happen if she wants them to happen, but not so pesky that it causes problems. For those of you in a similar situation, how do you strike a good balance?

I plan to talk to our friend tonight and see what happens.