My wife, Julie, has always had a more liberal definition of what is flirting, Fooling Around with friends, and sex. To understand her definition of what "Just Fooling Around" means we need to look to her past.
Julie and I were both raised in nudist family homes and conditions permitting, the two families were nude almost all of the time when home. My parents were conservative nudists and we were taught that any sexual activity should be engaged with the same levels of discretion and decency as you would in a clothed public environment. Sexual activity, including things like passionate hugging and kissing, petting, sitting provocatively, and other activities that may cause sexual arousal, should be avoided in public.
Links to my family's nudist philosophy:
https://forum.oneclickchicks.com/sho...8&postcount=23
and Julie's family's nudist background:
https://forum.oneclickchicks.com/sho...0&postcount=20
By contrast it was the 1960s, the sexual revolution was going strong, and Becky and Julie's college professor parents had develoed a more liberal attitude regarding public displays of affection and sexual behavior. They were advocates of the cultural and moral changes that were rapidly developing as part of the "sexual revolution", along with the counterculture and free love movements. With that attitude they redefined the limits of sexual behavior as actual vaginal penetration by an erect penis with or without ejaculation. Everything else was just innocent expermentation and ways of satisfying sexual curiosity and could be considered learning experiences.
They taught the girls that passionate hugging and kissing, non-penetrating genital to genital contact, caressing or suckling of ones genitals, breasts, or any other part of the body were not actual sexual acts and could, therefore, be considered as just "Fooling Around". As long as there was no genital penetration or ejaculation almost everything was fine.
However, both "Fooling Around" and actual sexual activity should be avoided in public so as not to offend those who may not agree. For the same reason even though they are normal and involuntary phsiological functions that could not be avoided, penile erections, vaginal wetness, and any other signs of arousal should be covered up or obscured when someone may offend.
At camp and at other peoples' homes Julies's parents were generally discrete and avoided overt intimate contact. However, they did have the reputation of being a slightly "touchy - feely" couple. At home they had broader limits to their displays of affection and decorum. During our frequent visits and weekend stays we got to see it all from passionate hugs and kisses, butt rubbing, nipple kissing, breast fondling and even light genital petting. These activities only lasted a few seconds each and Julie's dad rarely got an erection. However, when he did get one, partial or full, he did little to conceal it.
At first Susie and I were surprised and didn't know how to handle it, but after a couple of episodes Julie whispered that it was nothing, as "they Fool Around like this all the time". She then explained to us what fooling around meant and we left it at that. After all, their house, their rules.
I don't think that during their many visits to Julie's parents home my parents ever realized the full extent of their displays of affection at home. For Becky's and Julie's sake and their fear of damaging the relationship between our families, Susie and I agreed not to disclose these details to my parents.
Don't get me wrong, their home was not a "den of sin" and sexual hijinks. They were all just more broadminded, tollerant and less judgemental of other peoples' behaviors and mores. Their parents championed wholesome family and social nudism and did everything necessary to teach the girls the proper behavior and dicipline required for nude living. After all, nudity in itself is not sexual and living nude is not more sexual than living clothed. They had to have a certain level of sexual knowledge and a high degree of self control, but also had to be ready to be sexual when the situation warranted it.
After my return from college Julie and I started dating seriously. When we decided to marry she disclosed more details of the girls' home life including a couple of huge surprises of which I had no clue. I will relate these details in furture posts.