[Erotictimes]

Generally we have scheduled a meet-up with a third after meeting innocently for a cocktail prior. Once we all agree we are a fit, just pick a time when the mood is right and timing is good. These planned encounters have all been MFM experiences for us. Not that it matters, but for the record I have no interest in the male anatomy of others - my kink is all about sharing and spoiling my awesome wife!

How to meet a candidate? - Easier these days than in generations past i'm sure, we used to use CL before they shut down the personals. Now we utilize a few swinger and kink sites. It takes a little time to weed out the flakes and ultimately find a fit we're comfortable with but they do work. We really don't do this often, maybe once or twice - every other year makes for a perfect year.

Spontaneity and close calls? About 5 years ago we tried once to solicit a third at a bar, she struck up a conversation & eventually whispered the idea to him. Although it was all smiles he did not know what to think and ultimately we went separate ways.
I have seen and felt the vibe once or twice with gents and ladies we've crossed paths with throughout the years. One time a nice looking girl had a few drinks with us and felt up D and I both while we stood at the bar. I know where your mind is going - but D reciprocated so we are sure she was a she. We tried to take her home with us but for one reason or another things fell apart when the place closed at 2am. Although we may occasionally look, think, and ponder when we're out on the town - we sort of write off the possibility of a spontaneous meeting actually being possible and defer to planning with someone we know is onboard. It feels crappy to head out for the night with the goal in mind and to be all worked up on the idea only to not have it come to fruition. The late night let down is deflating.

Last night in fact, our single female next door neighbor came over for a drink. After a few bottles of wine things got very suggestive and there was a bit of dancing, twerking and groping between the three of us in the kitchen. It was actually close to becoming sexual, the vibes and looks were there between the neighbor and I but not D. At one point D asked us if we wanted her to go to bed so the neighbor and I could continue down the road we were headed! D and I have discussed this possibility before, it has nearly happened on a few other occasions. One night last Summer the three of us actually directly spoke about the elephant in the room, what if things got involved with some combination of us? We all agreed that although it would be fun - things would never be the same so we must recognize it should not happen. Seems like now and then we continue teetering right on the edge of that see-saw however. If there are ever enough wine bottles on the other end for counterbalance then who knows... In any case I am steadfast in my loyalty to D and would only even consider the idea if D were a direct part of whatever was going on. I am actually very much uninterested in D leaving the neighbor and I to have fun.

It may sound strange but personally I prefer the MFM situation. Far less pressure on me to perform (getting older sucks sometimes) and I know that D is a bit more jealous when other women are involved with me. We have been with other women many times (solo women, m/f couples, groups of women at swinger parties, etc) and it is about 50/50. Half the time I am good to go without concern; the other half, well lets just say D knows how to put my penis on the shelf so to speak.

Enjoyed sharing thoughts this afternoon, will follow up in this thread with the narrative of our one unplanned FMF when time allows. Cheers!