I had some time sitting in my office and decided to see what's posted on OCC. Whether one can tell or not I have struggled to explain what my wife feels about exposures and more importantly what I feel when "supporting" or enjoying the experience. Today I read a post by shihoin called social nudity and people looking.
I am so glad I did read this. The postings by OCC members gave me a lot more clarity in what is happening and my questions after.
After reading it i felt like I was reading my thoughts. I keep trying to define what transpires and why. As one posted, putting the activity and likes in a box. Better yet. Trying to label my wife's enjoyment of being exposed and my enjoying hearing about it or witnessing. Indym posted, labels comfort us and somehow insulate us from what others think, and I'll add and what we think ourselves.
In trying to cautiously explain to my dad has been a struggle. Nudism, exhibitionist or candualism. Which box or boxes do we fit. Which definition or definitions do we fit. That has been a struggle.
Upon reading responses several times I have to agree with the original poster. Its all about what the wife is comfortable with. My feelings aside, she is in control of how and when she is seen. Prior to her revealing her feelings and activities to me she spent years concealing her true wants, needs and desires.
Of what I have read it is irrelevant what box or definition either of us fall into. She enjoys being exposed. I enjoy hearing about her experience from her perspective and I also enjoy witnessing. To those and others I mentioned in that post, Thank You.
We discussed our trip to dad's last night. We leave after work so a late arrival. While talking she said, did I tell you the time...... I said no. She proceeded to tell me about a girl's trip she took. I absolutely remembered the trip I was jealous she went and I stayed. After her story, we tore the bedroom apart having sex. The reason I could have started this post with this last paragraph. She is in control of how when and where and I'm along for the ride.
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