I got reminded of something today.
One thing I've learned is that respect goes a very long way, it's cliche as hell but it's true, that's why I didn't get offended when I got a lecture from a nice couple at a nudist camp for having an erection. That situation taught me a lot about respecting people's space and lifestyle choices but what always turns me off is when guys think that they want to participate in swinging or partner swapping and all of a sudden they start flipping out halfway through and things get awkward, if not violent!
One situation was a couple who were in their mid to late 50s, they were small business owners and former military. The wife was a very beautiful and sophisticated woman. The conversations were great, we were on the same page about everything. I gave them the pictures of me they asked for (full nude front and back and penis close-ups) and I got the STD testing that they requested with them present for the testing.
Everything was fine, we all went to dinner and we seemingly clicked but one night things went off the rails, earlier me and the husband, the wife and another lady had gone on a double date, and we went back to the couple's house to have sex. He went to the other bedroom with the other lady, while me and the wife went to the master bedroom. We put on some music, we poured some wine and we slow danced, eventually, our clothes came off and we were still dancing, kissing and I eventually led her to the bed and begin kissing her legs, belly, and pussy.
All of a sudden, the husband busts into the room and is upset, the other woman's ex-husband called with an emergency involving their child. I'm startled and I stand up and ask him if he's ok, he explains the situation, and his wife immediately tells him to join us but he looks at my penis and asks me why I'm not wearing a condom and I explain to him that she and I had just undressed and hadn't done anything yet and furthermore I reminded him that both he and his wife saw me get tested and that condom usage would be the choice of his wife.
He still was pissed and eventually, his wife mentioned that she was comfortable anymore and I apologized (his wife whispered in my ear that I wasn't the problem and gave me a kiss on the cheek as I was getting dressed). Later me and the wife exchanged e-mails and went into detail telling me that this whole thing was their first time doing any "open marriage" related activity and she wasn't entirely sure that he was comfortable with the whole thing.
I eventually lost touch with the couple and it's been about 12 years now, they are probably in their 70s now but the lesson I took from the whole situation, is that if I'm going to deal with an open marriage/swinging/partner swapping couple, the people HAVE TO BE veterans of the lifestyle.
One of the best situations I was in was a 60-plus couple that had been swinging since 1978 and both had nearly 400 sex partners between them, I was respectful, I respected boundaries and I had a great time having sex with a busty 60-year-old.
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