I can only remember a few times that I've said no. One was a girl I was dating when I was 24. It was someone I worked with. I believe she was 19 at the time. We went out a few times. Things got pretty hot one night and she really wanted the D. She was nice enough but not someone I wanted a long term thing with. That wouldn't have mattered if she wasn't a virgin. But seeing that she was, I didn't want to be that guy so I said no and told her why.
Another was someone I knew for a number of years. It was the ex wife of a guy I know but I'm not close friends with him. She's a nice person but not someone I'm physically attracted to. Kind of a big boned/big woman. She'd hit on me once in awhile and I'd kind of laugh it off. One night she went for it and kissed me while we were standing outside a club. It was a quick kiss that I joked about so she didn't feel bad.
There has been an occasional women that I'd do and not even tell my best friend about. But they had some qualities that I really liked (probably very large breasts).
There is one woman I dated that generally wouldn't be my type (met on POF). But she was fun, outgoing and great to talk to. And she looked nice when she got dressed up. It was when she wasn't dressed up and didn't have make-up on that is the problem. I know I don't look like good 'ol Brad Pitt when he was 25 but I don't have trouble getting women and I know what I like. So she'd have a good night, fuck like rabbits after we got home, I'd fall asleep and she'd take her make up off. Then I'd look at her in the morning and think "I'm not coming back again". Then the next weekend she's say "I have tickets for us to goto _____". And I was like, Okay. we'll go". I eventually ended that. Just faded away.
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