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Originally Posted by hulktherockstar
When you guys know that before marrying you, your wife did certain sexual acts like giving a blowjob or anal with another man. But after she got married to you, now refuses to do that and is just interested in missionary sex. Anything else other than missionary is only on special occasions and that too if you had been a "Good Boy", How do you guys deal with that?
Knowing she had a wild side to her and tried every position and different sexual acts with another man who just used and dumped her and then you who married her gets vanilla sex.
Is it a good thing that she so comfortable with you that she doesn't has to now do anything to make you feel special. Whereas the man who was not giving her the ring got amazing sex for years from the same girl. Or it is just that she thinks that you are a loser and the one she had to settle for as she couldn't get the casanova she wanted.
I would like to hear some experiences from married men who have gone through this and how did they deal with it? Did the sex ever got better? Is there anyway around it?
I have never been married so would like to get your perspective on this. Some of you may even have experiences where once you gave her the ring she was not as sexually adventurous as when she was as a girlfriend, please share.
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I have been in your position. My first marriage was very similar. Even though she was kind of wild in the beginning it didn’t take long after our wedding she started acting like she didn’t like sex. Even more so after the birth of our child. I just thought that was normal back then; Not knowing there was another side to the story. But soon after she just left
(which is another story. I never abused her in any kind of way. But again that was another story.
After the divorce I lived as a single man and I was getting sex like crazy. Two or three different women per week. Sometimes two or three women in the bed with me at the same time. I was living the dream, sexually. 15 years later I got married again. My new wife and I did not have sex on our wedding night, nor during our whole honeymoon. In fact, we did not have sex for the first six weeks of our marriage. Not because I wasn’t trying, she just acted like she was not in the mood. Though before our wedding she rimmed me, we practiced anal often. She would give me blowjobs to completion without me even asking. She even brought home a chick she worked with and we had a threesome. But after the wedding, N O T H I N G!!! That marriage only lasted 9 months. She was seeing several other men and having sex with them, just not me. So, we got a divorce.
After the divorce I was back to my old ways. I was getting sex left and right. I was meeting several women at a time and having threesomes (ffm, fmf, one foursome mfff) and getting wild sex from all of the women. I was living the sexual dream again. Then Like a fool I got married again. About a year after our wedding the sex disappeared. I am no dummy. I know that if you want sex at night start your foreplay in the morning. I tried to be romantic. I read books on how to revive your sex life with your wife. I took good care of myself. I was in the gym 5-6 days per week. I was muscled up looking like Rocky. I talked to her about it. We went to counseling. I think the counseling just made things worse. The sex just got to the point of non-existent. There were several women trying to get me to have an affair with them behind my wife’s back and I didn’t do it. I stayed true. The marriage lasted about 7 years and it just got to the point that I did not have sex the last year of our marriage.
As soon as we split up the sex game was back on again. People often ask me if I will ever get married again. (at least once a week or more) My answer is the same to all of them.
“I will not get married again because I do not want to go back to not having sex.”
As for how did I deal with it? I just went without sex. Jacked off a lot and talked to my buddies that bragged about their wonderful sexlife.