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Originally Posted by Amos Quito
I’d suggest you always keep in mind the maxim that a good Dominant can force a submissive to do anything the submissive wants to do! In our case I discovered that my wife was particularly aroused by sexual humiliation, so that’s what we worked on. After a while she was doing stuff at bdsm parties that had experienced perverts of both persuasions goggle-eyed. And she loved it.
My advice is work out what your partner likes most and encourage her.
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Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. What she's come to realize about herself is that the more I degrade/humiliate her (or she degrades/humiliates herself), the wetter she gets lol. She didn't realize this about herself at first, or maybe didn't want to realize it lol, but the more we dabbled in submissive play, the hornier she found herself. After a while she started saying things during or before sex that would act as a sort of foreplay for her.
By which I mean, she'd start out saying that she was "worthless" or that she was "just an object to be played with by her Master (me)." But eventually she started saying things like "I'm worth less than dog shit" or whatever came to mind as the most degrading thing she could think to say about herself, she'd say it, and it would make her wet knowing, and feeling like she was owned by me, or like she was losing her dignity. Then she'd talk to me outside of foreplay about things I could do that would make her feel more degraded. Her foreplay comments evolved into statements that amounted to her "wishing she could actually be an object owned by me, and that it could be legally recognized" lol. Like, literally, she started saying things like, she wanted to be legally bound to follow my rules.
She's acted like a dog, and even eaten out of a dog bowl on the floor in front of a mutual friend. She's written "worthless", "stupid" or any other degrading thing you can think, onto her own forehead. So when I say nothing is off the table, it's not so much my own wishful thinking as it is her actual wish. She wants to be degraded by me and wants to feel like I own her like a possession. The trouble is that since we had to stop submissive actions for such a long time, she wants to ease her way back into it, rather than just jump back in picking up right where we left off, if that makes sense.