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Originally Posted by SyFoster
Let’s assume for our current discussion that she’s telling the truth (it would be odd to lie about such a thing; why say she doesn’t like giving oral sex if she secretly loves doing it?). The next question would be - Why doesn’t she like it? Two major reasons come to mind. 1. She simply doesn’t like it, never has/never will, and is just into basic, go-thru-the-motions sex; or 2. She had a bad experience in the past with blowjobs, and that turned her off to it. Maybe the guy’s dick and balls smelled really bad, maybe he pressured or forced her into giving him blowjobs, etc. If the case is #1, then give up, it just isn’t going to happen. If the case is #2, with the right amount of care, concern, openness, understanding, and discussion, there is the possibility that you could turn her around and get her interested in, and enjoying, sucking dick.
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Coming back in for one more post, to agree with SyFoster here on point 2. What might surprise is that my wife, who has loved giving BJs for about 20 years, didn't when we first hooked up. It wasn't any great mind game from me that converted her to liking them. It turned out that her previous BF (only guy she'd fucked before me) was what she called a "leaker". What she meant by that was that he produced (and leaked) a lot of pre-cum, while she was trying to blow him and she didn't like that. By the end of their relationship she had decided she didn't like blowjobs and made him wear a condom whenever she did give him one.
Luckily for me, I don't produce much pre-cum at all, and she gradually changed her mind over the first few months of our relationship. Turned out she liked being able to give pleasure this way, when she wasn't dealing with a steady stream of something she didn't like the taste of.
So, if the reason this lady doesn't like giving BJs is Sy's point 2, then the good news is that it is possible she might change.