[Shihoin]

My wife and I have been social nudists for a few years now. We stay naked the entire time we're at the resort. Needless to say, my wife has been viewed naked more times than I can count. Here are some of my thoughts on it.

I personally am not into candaulism (no judgement on those that are). I'm just comfortable with the fact that people are going to see my wife naked. If we're in the hot tub, and I see some guy eyeballing my wife's apple out of the corner of his eye as she walks out of the hot tub: I'm amused. If she's bent over laying out her towel or going through her purse: I know it's going to get attention; and I'm having fun looking around to see who's watching. If she's sitting by the pool with her legs open, and I see some guys in the pool doing a double-take at her vajajay: I just find it perfectly natural.

To me, it's all about what my wife is comfortable with. She knows she's being seen. But she likes to be in control of how she's being seen; and by whom. So it varies, and I just go along with it. When she first started out she had "exhibitionist energy" and prided herself on putting it "all out there" with open legs and a shaven kitty (she wanted to be the hottest chick by the pool, so she always went further than "that other girl"). She's a bit more "jaded" now that so many people have seen her naked so many times; but she will still occasionally surprise me. Last year we were playing pool with another couple; and my wife's constantly bending over and wiggling her apple actually gave a dude an erection. And she thought it was flattering!

People often like to box in nudists with either "exhibitionist" or "purist" labels. I think most of us are somewhere in the middle. Social nudity can be playful without being "hyper sexualized" (again, no judgement on swingers or exhibitionists). I like that people can see my wife naked - from literally every angle - and it puts a smile on their face. I'm proud of the fact that the sight of her naked apple bouncing around can cause an erection (even though that would have caused him some issues if a "purist" had seen it). It's a compliment and a testament to my wife's attractiveness.
No wide-mouthed intense gawking though! That's crossing a line!