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Originally Posted by TheXX
Thanks for posting! I was going to quote some, but then couldn't decide!
Great move getting two butt plugs and suggesting one for S. Maybe you could suggest that you and L "teach her how to use it"? Then at least she will be naked in your home and it will probably lead to other things.
I guess you are in a dilemma in that it sounds like you maybe want to play around with S a bit more and enjoy the group sex thing but you don't want to risk L getting jealous or feeling like she alone isn't enough in some way? I think you have to take it slow and steady and make sure the interactions with S are fairly occasional and that you are not always the instigator or regularly asking for S to be involved
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Thanks for your reply. You are absolutely correct that I don't want to ruin things with L over playtime with S. I think it is easy to convince ourselves that we, or the other person, will be fine, but our emotions are our emotions, and we don't have as much control of them as we think.
L is mature, and things have been great the way they are, but I do worry that if sex became more than a one-time thing, it could be a problem. One of the things that kept nagging at me was that L could be a little jealous at times, but not with S. We've talked about that, and there isn't a clear-cut reason for why it is ok with her.
So, this is how we have left things... S can play with us anytime L wants. I'd prefer L to take charge and make things happen, but we came up with a little sign that L can give me if she wants me to take control, and a way she can let me know if she wants me to stop without making things weird. I feel a lot better since we've really talked about it and figured out those details, but we will see what happens.
They have a couple more weeks off before they have to be back (final semester), and I get the sense that we are going to have a visitor before the break ends. I know S loves her family, but based on the conversations so far, she is bored at home. I suggested that she ask S to come down and do some wedding planning/shopping before the break ends. L loves that idea, so I suspect it will happen sooner rather than later.