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Originally Posted by rold63
She's just looking out for you but a lot of parents like to blow things out off proportion. It definitely does sound like she doesn't know how to say things nice, at least in that moment.
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Ya, I can relate. For example, I am pro-breastfeeding, pro-free-the-nipple, etc, but for some really strange reason when a friend of mine was trying to nurse her baby and her nipple came into full view of a handful of people, I made some really off-the-wall comment that was intended to be nice but came out really, really mean and hurtful. I still feel guilty about it and it was over 20 years ago.
I guess I didn't know what to say because I was trying to be sincere, yet I didn't want people to think that I was a perv enjoying the view (even though I was), and I knew that my ex-wife at the time was jealous that I saw another nipple and she was going to take it out on me later (she was abusive), so the words that came out in that split second were not very nice.
Another example, when my sister and I were younger, I remember her boob falling out of her swimsuit. No one saw but me, but I knew she would be incredibly embarrassed if anyone else saw, so I let her know about it before anyone else knew. But, because I was scared of her getting mad that I saw it and I didn't want her to think that I was enjoying it, I made some stupid comment that came across as totally mean instead because I had to think up something in a split second.
Both of these incidents I still feel badly about and are not my normal character at all; not even close, but those are the moments that people remember, unfortunately.