People can forgive but cant forget..human nature to also want to know why someone was chosen over them.
4 Months is small compared to 16 years..but by itself..still a long time..16 weeks/112 days..!.not like it was a one night stand.
Whatever the reasons you chose him over your husband they were strong enough to have pushed you to the point of divorce and 16 weeks of sex with another dude..
And your husband knows that. So until he knows the reasons...he will never be quite sure if you wont do it again.It might not be a full blown affair but...Even a 1 night stand or kiss/bj might still be possible in his mind.
Another issue is whether he should have stuck around. Another discussion for another day.
Good luck on both ends.
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