Thanks for all the replies so far. I understand that she may say NO outright and it could leave to negative feelings but the potential long-term fun means it is worth going for. I hope most people agree and would enjoy looking at images of my wife if we get that far.
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Originally Posted by Duran Duran
I reckon you've got 2 different issues at play.
1st: Persuading wife to pose for nude photos
2nd: Posting such photos online
The 1st should be too much trouble. Another poster mentions the building up of confidence. I think that's important. I also think that your wife needs to be happy in other areas. She's more likely to do this for you if you're not doing all the little things in the relationship that annoy her. I've posted about this previously and I hold firm to it. A happy wife outside the bedroom makes a sexy wife in the bedroom.
The 2nd is a whole different game.
You can't just throw the frog into the boiling water, you gotta cook it slowly. But if she is partaking in a bit of exhibitionist fun on any level and you build that up, then I think there is far more chance of being able to see what she thinks about it.
Some women will never do it either, but I think more will do it than us men believe given the right circumstances and situation.
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I think this sums it up. As without the first, the second will not happen. I'd like to think I am doing all the other things in our relationship. Confidence is an issue. My wife recently told me she doesn't like wearing shorts anymore. To put it into context she has an attractive physique and is curvy in a sexy way so more than able to be seen in shorts. She has a great chest and she’s happy to wear tight tops which show her breasts off. In our own privacy she’s comfortable with me seeing her naked body.
The conundrum is how I ask her to let me start taking photos and to do it in a way that leads onwards – so this doesn’t stop before it starts, or she works out (she is quite intuitive) what my long term plan might be early on and that puts her off before she is ready.
I see I have a couple of options: -
I I come right out with it and ask her to pose naked explaining how I find her body beautiful and feel it should be captured as she’s happy to walk around naked in the home. We can always delete what we don’t want. I’m not sure this approach will work as I have said above. The danger is it might put her off but I would certainly find out where the boundary is.
2. I ask if she’s ok with me photographing her in some of her more revealing underwear. Gradually we build it up either at the time if she shows interest or later on when she’s comfortable being photographed.
3. A very long-term game where I start taking more photos of her in all kinds of situations and then gradually ask to reveal more of herself eg unbuttoning a button etc, so it progesses gradually and she doesn’t feel like she’s being asked to post naked out of nowhere.
I am erring towards 2 although as I have said my wife may well work out my plan. In which case we may have to go back to the drawing board or with a version of 3. I intend to ask her in the next few days.
Any further help much appreciated.
Thanks for the replies so far.
S