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Originally Posted by Omega88
And not just confidence in themselves, but sufficiently confident that "you" [BF, husband, the instigator in chief] willl not then hold anything against them for actually doing something new once the thrill of the moment has passed.
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Absolutely. I spent a lot of time, care and energy "building up" my ex to try social nudity. When she finally did it; I was thrilled. But then she decided to run with it and take it further than I'd expected. She started shaving and being really relaxed about lounging around with her legs open. As I saw other nudists "enjoying the view" between her legs, at first I was like: "Wait a minute! That was not what I was trying to get her to do!" But then I had to do a reality-check, and come to terms with the fact that she was now doing it "her way", and not mine.
The same concept can be applied to sharing/swinging and whatever else "alternative lifestyle." If you instill in her the confidence to step outside of her comfort zone, you have to be ok with her doing it or taking it to a level that's more pleasurable/comfortable for her.