New member here and really enjoying reading some of the stories here. I guess I stumbled upon the perfect thread for my first post.
I am 29. Honestly I cannot remember for the life of me the last time I dated a girl who was relative to my age. If I had to guess, I must of been 25 or 26 when I dated a few girls who were around my age and younger. That was the time when I had said screw this and went back to dating up. (At this point I had dated a few older women and had a few one night stands.)
For me, it all started with a family friend who I was strongly attracted to. I have known her personally since I was about 10 or 11 years old. My parents would send me over seas to my home country for the summers where I would stay at their friends house. I remember as a teenager she was very sexually open and always made a lot of sexual innuendos. I doubt she though of anything sexual of me when I was that young but I always found her fascinating, great body and a pair of really great natural boobs. Needless to say, nothing ever manifested of this.
I had a high school sweetheart who was a couple months older than me. By college we had broken up. I didn't really date a whole lot throughout college - just too busy with studies and just had a really bad perception of all the college girls I had met. To remind you, I am European. I was brought up around the European mentality even though I had grown up here in the states.
When I was 21 going onto 22, I was on a study abroad program in my homeland. I met a lot of girls on this program. I mean a lot. I was the guy who went out with a different girl about every other night. All the girls were around my age or younger. All the girls I went out with and had fun, none of them did it for me except for the girl who was 10 years older than me. She was 31 years old and shortly going onto 32.
During the program, I got a few blow jobs out of her but never fucked. Not until a year later. We kept in touch through the year and she ended up visiting the US. This turned into a 5 year long, long distance, on off relationship with many ups and downs with a lot of life lessons regarding how manipulative women are - but that is a whole other story. Frankly I was hooked on dating up and older girls. When she and I had broken over (of the 3 or 4 times) I would do online dating and would dating women older than myself. Typical range was 12-20 years older than myself. My ex and I got together again in 2014 and tried to make it work since she had moved to the US permanently. Unfortunately, after 9 months of her bullshit, I got tired of it and we mutually went our own ways.
I went back to school for a semester for a certificate program. Didn't really date but met with some girls for drinks over the course of 4-5 months. It was the perfect remedy for the breakup. Stay busy learning what you love and have fun in a city I love.
When the school program ended, I was heavily looking for a new job in a slightly different field two years ago. I was still at my old job when I met my current gf. She was my client. I kinda assumed she was older than me but I didn't think she was that much older than me. She looked no more than 35-37 years old. Without going into too much detail, there was a mutual click between us. Ended up asking her out. Over the next couple months, I'd ask her age and she would never give me it. Eventually it came out after like 4 months of dating. She is 20 years older than me and doesn't look a year older than me. People actually think I am older than her. We have been together for two years. It has been a tough two years as life is not always perfect but there is something very sweet about her that is hard for me to move on - to be with someone who would be more appropriate in age for me even if she were to be 5-10 years older than me. Very much in love with this one and I'm happy that a year ago I gave myself fully into this relationship. There have been other women with similar age gaps who I was with who just didn't cut it for me.
So...I am curious - has anyone here fallen in love with an older partner where she is/was the older one and the age gap was similar to that of my experience (20 years). What did you do? Did you marry?
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