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Yes, it's been a long time since my last post... so here is the update:

I and my ex went to couples therapy, we rekindled... we were a mono couple. I proposed to her before 2017, she accepted. Sometime around Spring of 2017, she made contact with the affair partner, kid. I caught her. We started therapy again and on her dime.

She would at times push for us to open our relationship. She cheated and had sex with the guy, in our home while I was at work a few times. Caught them. But she promised again, to work on us.

She then started a relationship behind my back with her "best friend" - the one who lived with us for a while and gone to sex venues together. Nevermind that he told me/us that he didn't want the drama of having a girlfriend and text AND told me that he wouldn't want to be in the kind of mess he saw me and my fiancee with the young guy in the past... this dumbshit decided he's in love with my fiancee (and her to him) and stuck in dick into my family.

Needless to say, she is no longer my fiancee. When I confirmed and confronted her about the cheating, sex and other crap behind my back... she decided to the jig was up, end our relationship and move in with her "friend".

Things turned into more shit. I've been assaulted by her again, police and courts are involved. Child custody, etc. And after a few months, apparently, he has thrown her out of his house. So what did she win?

She never took the time and respect the concept of a couple who love each other to have proper communications to have any sort of open relationship. Turns out she had worse mental problems and drug abuse addictions she was also hiding from me.

She is an EX. I loved her very much and wish she loved me, respected our relationship TO each other, wasn't a liar or a cheater. I miss her dearly, the one woman I have loved so much in my life.

I have many friends who are poly, swinging and etc. I am not against the lifestyle... but it's important that the couple does communicate and are honest with each other. Cheating *IS* cheating, being monogamous or not, it makes no difference. Being mono, doesn't keep anyone from cheating.

I have not been here for a long time. I wish I had better news and stories to tell you... I am heartbroken for our loss. She lost as well, for all the wrong reasons.

I still hope this thread is helpful to others, that IF you don't share completely with each other - there will be problems.