Outsiders?
Okay, so my question for you is this.... is this something your wife wants or something you are trying to convince your wife to do for you? There are posts on here from men who want advice on how to get there wife to go along, so I would suggest reading those. If she is interested, and you just don't know how to go about it, there are a number of ways with varying degrees of success/failure. Probably your best avenue are the various swinger web sites. There are tons of single men looking to be the third, and couples who swing alone. The downside is that you will get inundated with single men. The first site we joined and posted what we were looking for, we got over 700 replies in the first day. Less than 10 of the replies fit what we were looking for. We replied to these 10, and three seemed like a match. We met all three, and only found one was suitable. We still see him from time-to-time. The advantage to swinger sites is that the men here are often "verified" by couples and women. So you know you are getting someone who can perform. You can also try picking men up in clubs and bars. But that isn't as easy as you think. Many men love the idea in fantasy, but the reality is too much. We have had our share of men who could not get an erection once we were all alone. They often suffered uncharacteristic performance issues because another man was present. But then again, some of our best experiences (and recurring friends) we have met in a bar. You also run the risk of meeting a weirdo. Last, and certainly least, you can use Craigslist. But there are tons of fakes, flakes, and freaks on Craigslist. We have answered a few ads (we never post an ad), two of which actually turned out fairly well (one is still a semi-regular friend). But I would caution using a friend. There is a saying in the Swinger lifestyle that is pretty good advise; "make swingers into friends, not friends into swingers". Good luck!
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