[LBnJB]

My wife and I have spent a lot of time exploring BDSM. She truly loves pain as part of her sexual experience. We do not dabble in humiliation, all of my scenes are centered around pain and/or fear. Part of our exploration included identifying her limits. How can you know your limit if you do not exceed it? If you can't see the line, you don't know where to stop. Make sense? A safe word is an absolute must if you are pushing boundaries. We never play with others, as BDSM (for us) is very, very personal. She has absolute trust in me; trust that I will not hurt her while inflicting as much pain as she can tolerate. We use two very simple, easy to remember words. Yellow and red. Yellow means slow down. I like what you are doing, but I am close to my limit. Give me a breather, then resume. Red means stop immediately. You have reached or exceeded my limit. Part of what makes it exciting is seeing how far she can go. Once I learned her limits, she almost never uses anything other than yellow.