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Originally Posted by LBnJB
I don't agree that retroactive jealousy is inevitable. My wife is a few years younger than me, but when we got married she was way more experienced. She was very upfront with me from the start she liked sex, and had a lot of different partners. She was 19 when she lost her virginity, and 23 when we met. She told me that she doesn't know the total number, but estimates she had sex with more than 60 men before me. That doesn't include the odd blowjob/handjob when she was on her period. She has always been able to separate emotions from sex, which may be the reason I have never been jealous. Plus, she has never given me a reason to not trust her. I have always enjoyed listening to her tell me about her different encounters. Some are hot and sexy, some are sad and funny. In the end, you should only be jealous if she gives you cause. Does she want other men? Repeat encounters with previous men? Is that why you are afraid? If you trust her, there is no reason to be jealous. Don't confuse your sexual arousal with jealousy. As my wife says, its just sex.
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I agree with everything you wrote and in my case my wife's friend told her my wife estimated it to be over 30 guys. She never told me but told her friend, and her friend told me.
It's completely normal, IMO. Also, if I understand a lot of women, sometimes sex has emotion and sometimes it doesn't. 80% of the time they can classify it correctly. Almost all problems, IMO, are caused by an emotional mistake, not a sexual one.
But I enjoyed reading LBnJB's mature contribution to this.
I have my own views on whether I ever want my wife to tell me about a past sexual experience.