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Originally Posted by GRITS
Yes, i SAID there is no problem w/ a safe word if you need it......... my point was that if your playing like that,,, you "should" be able to recognize distress... otherwise maybe think about not playing that was untill you know the ropes better....
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Having been on the scene for many years, we have witnessed and been involved in lots of scenarios and situations. To the uninitiated, or onlookers, it may appear someone is in distress, when in actual fact they are comfortable with what is happening.
Then again, there are a lot of plastic swingers/players/fetish and BDSM participants and so on, that do it for the glory of having a trophy wife who is coerced and put into situations they don't want to be in, yet go through the motions with a smile on their face to please their partners, which can lead to they plays ending in ugly situations and arguments due to a lack of communication.
Safe words, for us, are just there for the safety of each other and a line not to cross and keep communication clear.
Safeword = Stop, back off, gather yourselves and keep each other happy.