I think that for every "good" sharing story, there are five or more bad ones. You don't hear about the bad ones as much.
I've met a few "sharers" and swingers in my time; some were divorced, others were in a "bad place" in their relationship because of it. Even though my evidence is anecdotal, some stats I have read seem to support it.
Typically, the couple makes a "pact", and the pact is subsequently broken because the guy, or woman, decides he/she wants to bang the "third", without the partner's knowledge or consent.
Or in other cases one of the partners shares or is shared to make his/her partner happy; but is really not into it. And eventually just gets tired of it. A friend of mine allowed herself to be shared to please her lover; but she got to the point that she'd had so many different cocks in all her orifices that she had a breakdown.
To me, sharing is a bit like nudism in a weird way. Nudism usually starts by asking your partner to be ok going completely naked in front of strangers. Some women are totally ok with it, especially if they're exhibitionists to begin with. Some women struggle with it but do it anyway to please their partner. I think you have to find something that works for you both; and then stick to that arrangement. And make sure your partner is comfortable with it.
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