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Originally Posted by looksalot

I'm wondering if any or all the things both of you have done and are doing ever gets to feel like just standard regular sex since, as in a single couple event, you've done it all before and will do it all again with the same people being that you have both a closed swing group and a very limited number of Special Friends.

In other words, many of the get into swinging stories seem to develop from sex with the same partner over the years becoming predictable and mundane. Is it not the same in your case with the same group after a period of time, maybe on an broader scale?

I do appreciate all the straight clear concise answers to our questions and your stories of your adventures. To use the vernacular, how many times can you go to Disneyland and still get the same big thrill.

Very interesting point!... nothing we haven't discussed in the past between hubby and me...

Yes, sometimes it is like going to Disneyland too many times.. its developed into a norm, as with any monagamous couple.. sex is sometimes always the same. ... BUT, we do it because its just fun and exciting to do,.. Hubby and I have sex at least once daily together because we enjoy each other sexually.. the swing thing is a combination of --extra cirricular activity, and , the thrill of the moment, and, a little variety is the spice of life.!!

Though we only swing w/ the same people , its still all of the above... We only get together w/ the big swing group every month or so, its not a weekly thing..and thats usually like taking a short adventure vacation w/ good friends.....

As far as the "select" friends goes, that is often a weekly thing. Usually once a week, unless its a horney week... lol.... but that is the variety that breaks the monotany of married everyday sex... its often spur of the horney moment, which is good for that... When we have a Sunday afternoon session w/ a few "select " friends , its just alot of fun for everyone.

If you read & remember.. after any swing session.. I like being w/ hubby as he likes being w/ me... at no time yet has our swing life substituted for our own sex life together... We just developed a good attitude about it all... thats why we always say , "its a job in itself to find decent swing friends".. because it takes patience, and caring for each other... not selfish needs to be with others.

So, i hope that explains it.. you are on the money w/ your questions,, everything in life can get boring & monotanous-- BUT you do the best to make it better... its not a perfect world, and we try not to be perfect.. just enjoy to the best of our responsible ability to each other.

ATTITUDE-- ATTITUDE-- ATTITUDE.. counts