Human nature is plain and simple. We (both men and women) look for pleasure at any chance we have.
What makes the difference is that we are smart enough to repress those sexual drives in order to achieve a bigger, long term goal. In this case, a good, loving and long lasting relationship.
Tons of guys are going to flirt and try to get into your wife/gf's pants; that is the way it is. SOME are going to respect that she is in a relationship, OTHERS won't. It is that simple AND YOU CAN'T CONTROL IT!
At the end of the day, what matters the most is her own sense of loyalty and commitment to the relationship.
Try to notice how she behaves in other areas. Is she loyal to her friends? Does she gossips behind their backs? Is she committed to her job? Does she lies constantly to get what she wants? Those are clear clues of who she really is.
Now, trusting is a full time activity; you can't partially trust someone.
My father told me once (and I will never forget about it): when someone cheats on you, you will suffer days, maybe weeks... when you don't trust on your partner, you suffer everyday, always.
Be strong man, I know how difficult is not to be able to control your feelings and thoughts. The best advice I can give you is (besides what others here have told you about communication): whenever those thoughts come to your mind, think about something else; don't let them conquer you. They are like a snowball, they grow and grow, you will feel more miserable every day and YOU WON'T SOLVE SHIT.
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