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Originally Posted by stenxyz1
I went back and looked at some of your posts. Didn't read them all but just curious if it turns you on when she does that? Do you have some ground rules set up or is it just something you don't talk about?
Having kids myself that is the other thing I am curious about, if you have any are you sure they are yours?
I am not judging and really like your stories but still fascinated by how a relationship like this one works.
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No worries, I agree that it is unusual and even strange. We have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. It has arisen by implication. Because every time I have tried raise something like this with her in conversation, she just gets hysterical and denies everything and is completely unable to reason. It's some kind of cognitive dissonance for her--it's not supposed to be that way so we can't be that way even if we are. If we pretend like it's not happening, she can deal with it quite well.
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could turn me on, except that she's so damn secretive about it. I like that she's liberated that way, but I want and need to know. For one thing, we're in the same field and I need to know how to gauge how her activities are affecting my practice. Who she's fucking and who knows could make a real difference to some of my professional relationships. Also, the it stands now, something that could be a tool to bring us closer instead has a much greater potential to drive or pull us apart.
I am fairly confident the children are mine. As confident as a guy can be. Why I think that is complicated, and boring. But I am sure they are mine.