[love2Bnaked]

[QUOTE=GRITS;2455716]

Originally Posted by love2Bnaked

Mrs. Grits here******----Try not to appear like your throwing her at friends or aquaintances for sex..... that will make her feel worthless to you.... shes hesitating because she loves you, and is maybe uncomfortable about how much,, or just how you offer or want her to fuck others... think...
Do you have sex w/ other women??... if not maybe you should, or better, find a swing regular couple (not a swing club pick up couple) where as she sees you w/ another woman so it all on an even keel together?... be careful of making her feel that you don't care if she fucks others... you're supposed to care about each other in these situtations , and its should feel like extra carricular sex out side your bedroom... >>>..not entertainment for you.
Also, allowing her to say, that her friend & her are married on trips is not good.... always keep it what it is,, they are on a business trip togerther sounds better... your her husband, not him-- don't make her feel like shes living a lie.......from a woman... attitude, attitude, attitude counts.

Thanks for your comments Ms. GRITS but there may be some misconception here. Our marriage and sex life together is very strong and always has been. We never doubt the LOVE of each other and are very careful to protect and preserve our marriage. Jealousy is never an issue.

We simply both enjoy an occasional little bit of the extra pleasure of sexual activities just like you and hubby do. I assure you I never “throw” her at any person or certain activity nor have pushed any frequency… she is and always has been a strong and independent woman. She has a great personality and a killer body. We have gone together to the strip clubs, adult theaters, nude beaches such as Blacks Beach CA, nude resorts in Palm Springs and have both enjoyed all of them. We have had soft swap and full swap and yes, she has watched me fucking other women and enjoyed seeing it.

Like you she has had a few “select” friends over the years who are carefully screened and selected. At present, all have moved away and so have we. And no, she has never posed as another man’s wife. She always lets them know she is married and most of them are as well.

I am a bit confused when/why you say not to have her “feel like I don’t care” if she fucks other guys though. Sorry if it came across that way. Both of you, in your stories, do not care if the other has a hookup with a “select” friend without telling the other one about it before the hookup. I assume you are both okay with that. Hubby actually seems to enjoy it. But then you tell each other about it afterward and you guys have terrific sex after hearing about it. THAT is all I want her to feel free to do… have great sex with another man and then describe it to me in detail which turns me on and then we have some major sex and fun. To me, that is not making her feel like I “don’t care”. Do you agree?

The guy she met in the trip I referred to was not any business acquaintance of hers but simply a great guy who was there for a conference of his own. They met in the hot tub/pool, had some great conversation, both flirted a great deal and she was totally horny and ready for some great sexual fun as was he. She totally knew it was/is okay with me. She simply can’t get over the hump when it is just the 2 of them. The only “agreement” we have ever had is that it is safe sex only, they are not drunk and we tell each other about it as soon as we are back together.

Hope this clarifies it a bit for you. Any further suggestions or tips from you and hubbies experiences?