Some excellent feedback already posted in response to your post and questions. For us, I trusts my wife completely. I do not trust most guys and know most of them will always get whatever they can regardless of a ladies relationship status or desire level if she has had one too many.
For us it may be a little different than other posters. My wife does enjoy flirting and being around other men. She has no trouble at all enticing men in their twenties and thirties anytime she wants. She gets hit on a lot by men of all ages. While we do have an "open" marriage and relationship we also have established ground rules that we have both agreed upon and set in place. She does travel a lot with her job and as a routine part of that she has many functions where drinking and after-work cocktail parties are required. Over the course of the past 30+ years of our marriage she has only "hooked-up" on during a handful of these events back in her hotel room. Typically she tells me of her interests in a particular person and asks if I am sure I am ok with it before pursuing it further to that point.
This past weekend we visited a nudist lifestyle resort and Sunday evening we spent time in a hot tub with several other people. My wife was exceptionally flirty and having a lot of fun with several of the younger single gentleman. There was a lot of kissing and touching happening and I am sure several of the guys thought it was going to be their lucky night with her. I really doubt any of them cared at all if I was there, if she was married, if I was a convicted serial killer, cop or head of a biker gang at that point as most their blood reserve was engorging another part of their body other than their brain. If she had told me she wanted to hook-up with one of them it would have been fine as she was really into it.
On this occasion instead of carrying if further she moved over to me and said she was ready to go back to the room. We got out and as soon as we got inside our room I got one of the best blow jobs I have had in a long time from her, she was really into it. I stopped her before finishing and she had one of the most intense orgasms she has had in a long time after I got inside her.
Communication is key, the flirting with other men can lead to some great arousal and sex between you and her if she feels desired, hot and sexy. But, trust and being on the same page is vital between you both regardless of what your individual rules and boundaries are together. From your post it sounds like you may not have identified these yet between you both.
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