I'm on my second and last marriage. It never crossed my mind to try and get my first wife to do any sort of playful thing. I intuitively knew the answer would be a hard "no," so I never tried it. My second wife, though . . . the thought of trying some lifestyle play started occurring to me before we even got married.
Haven't read the whole thread, so don't know the flavor of the conversation, however, we started out tentatively and small and have kept, ah, "growing" over the years, I guess. I've gotten her to:
- Take her underwear off at work, snap an upskirt picture of her pussy and text it to me.
- Take her underwear off at work, meet me for lunch, then get fingered to orgasm in the parking lot.
- Go underwear-less for long periods of time on road trips.
- Flash her tits at truckers and passersby on 4-lane highways.
- Visit an adult theater or two.
- Visit video booths in adult book stores a few times.
- Play with a few dicks at the glory holes.
- Suck a big black cock at a glory hole.
That one pretty well blew my mind.
- Visit and ultimately become a regular and enthusiastic attendee at clothing optional lifestyle campgrounds.
- Eventually revel in going naked an entire weekend at lifestyle campgrounds.
- End up getting fucked virtually every time we visit a lifestyle campground, after repeatedly insisting on the way there that she's not going simply to get fucked.
- Take an occasional boyfriend for some period of time (a year or so), whom she then fucks once a month or so (sometimes more often, mostly because life is busy for everyone).
- Get to the point of not even telling me beforehand that she's going out to fuck said boyfriend. I find out afterward half the time now.
- Try, enjoy and eventually embrace swinging, hotel parties, house parties, and getting fucked at these events.
Lots of other stuff that naturally goes along with this list. If we haven't done any lifestyle play for a while she starts mentioning it and wonders out loud what we're doing next.