We had set rules/boundaries early on only because we were in uncharted territory and didn't want to do anything to make the other uncomfortable. It's funny looking back because after our first time getting together with another couple for the girls to play, half those rules/boundaries went out the window. Eventually most all of them did as we got more and more comfortable with what was going on.
I can certainly understand your work ethic......once engaged, fully engaged. I usually have to be dragged away from it, often under strong protest, before I realize that I should have taken a break and relaxed long before. That usually gets a response in the form of an eye roll and an "I told you so".
I did like your story. I've always appreciated the spontaneous adventures much more than those that are preplanned. It's a rush when you find yourself caught up in that moment where you wonder is that as far as she's going to go or is there more? Kinda like the story with your wife and the older camper at the park/seesaw. All she wanted to do was show off, be seen and get a reaction. Could something more have happened? Absolutely! But that's not what she wanted. She just wanted to be seen and admired. Nothing in the world wrong with that, especially if it works to build up her self confidence for future adventures. Of course, when you think back to that moment and then add all the things that COULD have happened, I can certainly understand the resulting reaction for you.
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