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Originally Posted by 2out4more
After reading your posts my wife and I finally took the leap and visited a swinger club this weekend. We were afraid to see somebody we know so we drove to another city about 5 hours away. There was not a big crowd but about 60 people were there. They had a room for single guys and then the dance area for couples. We sat alone most the time and then my wife wanted to check out the singles room so we went in. We talked to one guy for a while and he and my wife kissed a little and then he said we should go to a play room in another area since there is no male nudity or any sex allowed outside that area. We went to a small room and they kissed more and my wife was really shy and reserved. She told me it felt weird having me there in the room and asked me to let her sit with the guy so I went outside the room to give them some space. They were in there alone together for about half an hour and then came back out. My wife's hair was messed up and they both seemed happy. They kissed and then the guy left the club and we sat back down. The club closed at 1 and we left around 12. We stayed at a hotel Saturday night and my wife said they didn't have sex but they kissed and she sucked his cock and he got off but came in a kleenex in the room and then he licked her pussy and fingered her. She said it felt really good but she didn't finish. She was really turned on and we ended up having some really hot sex together that night and again in the morning. She said he wanted to fuck her but she said she wasn't ready yet but she really wanted to. It was weird standing outside the room knowing they were in there together. Sort of hot but sort of agonizing at the same time. She texted the guy Sunday and they want to meet again in two weeks. She thinks the pictures your friend took underneath you and your wife are the hottest thing she has seen and said she wants to try that but back at the hotel instead of at the club where there is not much privacy. She also said she feels weird if I am watching her getting fucked by another guy and is not sure if she is ready to go there yet or if she will want me to go out of the room to have a drink while they play around. I don't know what I want, both scenarios are hot but I had to tell somebody so sorry if I hijacked your story here. Is what we did normal for people on the first time or not?
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It sounds like you guys had a good start. Congratulations on the move to get involved and to determine if the lifestyle is a fit for you or not.
Insofar as asking if what/how you did is normal, I can't say that there really is a "normal" as every couple has to decide what works for them and what does not. You will find as much diversity in the lifestyle and among different clubs, groups and events as you do people. Ultimately, it is all about what makes you both happy and turns you both on. The only golden rule is that you both go home together at the end of the night/party.
For us the hooking up solo is not something that works. But, that does not mean it is not "normal" it just does not work for us and we know many couples who it is the only way they will hookup or play. So, talk between you and see how you feel when it happens.
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Originally Posted by MT1982
Long time lurker and had to sign up so I could reply. Your wife is incredibly hot. The pics you posted of her in the red have already caused 3 loads to be pumped looking at them here. Do you have any more of her in this outfit? Would love to see you post them if you do.
Me, I 35 and have been active in the lifestyle for about 12 years. Never married other to my job and eternally single. Yes, I am that dreaded single guy at the clubs and events. I have met some amazing couples and single ladies over the years and a few screwballs but overall I love the lifestyle. I always laugh at the couples who say they are not into single men but then want to hookup.
You two sound like the perfect couple I would love to meet. Dave is a very lucky man and if you are ever in the Chicago area I would love to meet you guys even if just for a drink and to exchange stories. I read your posts every day and it is fascinating to see and read your details of the lifestyle from a couples point of view. Very real and informative and your wife's pics are always a huge turn on.
In the lifestyle it is all about the lady and her pleasure. For us guys it is an honor to have them share themselves with us. A lot of the stuff your wife likes or wants is pretty universally desired by most woman. A man can't be squeamish and the reward of her orgasm that literally takes her breath away is always worth any effort.
Keep posting and I am sending you a PM and hope you guys both get to Chicago.
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Thanks for your post and welcome, we are glad you joined and decided to post. You too sound like a great guy and the type we enjoy meeting.
I do have additional pictures from the weekend of her in her red lingerie and will post them with this message.
A PM we received:
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Help, my gf and me have a question we hope you can answer for us. We have been on a swinger site and the gf is wanting mfm like you guys got so we looking for single guys. None of our meeting so far have turned up anything like you guys have posted. Guys don’t show or call when they say they will meet and, guys are not the guy in the picture, the age is off by more than a decade, they have issues getting hard. And other stuff. Is this just what is out there or are we doing this wrong. Did you guys ever have a bad meeting and what did you do to fix it so it don’t happen again. Not sure if we want to keep trying. Thanks man, Mike n Theresa
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Mike, you are not alone. Looking at the online lifestyle sites is like choosing what’s behind door number five. Hit or miss. And, yes, we have been there and felt the same way you do. Guys don’t post pictures or they post internet images so their wife doesn’t catch them. Real classy. I really love the guys who have their entire portfolio filled with hot woman but want to meet up as a single man. We DON’T DO CHEATERS!.
Some easy work-arounds to get legitimate profiles. Our ground rules are: 1. Must be a member of the site for greater than one year. 2. Must have full face pictures, body is ok but not required. Those pictures must be open to our view and they must have a minimum of three couples who have certified them as real. 3. Must be willing to talk on the phone with both she and I together. If she expresses an interest they must meet me for a lunch one day. This gives me a feel for what type of person they are or how they treat woman. (You’d be surprised) If we feel comfortable then she will schedule a meeting out at a local establishment for drinks and to meet. She tells them all “No play on first date” but this is more a backdoor for her since on many occasions it does happen and from her desire not the guy pushing it.
Believe me, we have had our share of poor representatives of the single males in the lifestyle but then again we have also met some amazing great guys too. We really don’t write about the bad, nobody wants to read those stories. If there is enough interests we will post one, so let’s see how many requests we get here.
Our profile is closed to non-paid members, members without certifications from others and members without image files. This filtering reduces the spam by 80% alone.
During our first few months of playing in the lifestyle we both did things and had things happen that we did not want or desire. After about the first two months we changed our entire approach and now it is seldom that we get played by anyone.