[mightymitch22]

Originally Posted by rednose

She finds it too distracting and it can ruin her orgasm.

Well, here's some advice.

The first time I tried to stick my finger in my wife's butt, we were in the middle of having sex. She didn't like it and pushed my hand away. On many previous occasions, she had let me rub the outside of her butthole during sex and had enjoyed that. So I figured I would try just sticking my finger in her butt just a little bit. But, like I said, she didn't like it. She said it distracted her.

But, my wife really likes to please me. When she understood how much I wanted to finger her butt, she said she would give it a try. (I should add that at that point she had no idea that I was hoping to buttfuck her one day!)

The next time we were having sex, I was on top and she had her legs pulled far back. I reached down with my right hand and started to rub the outside of her butthole and made sure there lots of lubrication. Then I took my pinky finger and started to super slowly try to gently push it into her butt. On the third of fourth push, the tip of my finger, like not quite a quarter of an inch, slid into her butt. I didn't try to go in farther but I just gently moved it back and forth sideways/horizontally. I left it in her butt for about 10 seconds and then pulled it out. What a wild feeling! Afterward she said it didn't bother very much because of how gradually I slid it in and because I didn't try to go in farther.

After a few more times, in that same sex position or with her riding me, she got to the point where she didn't mind if I put about half an inch of my index finger into her butt. She was still able to climax. She said she actually enjoyed it. And my wife is rather petite. She's barely 5'2".

As I said so now she really gets off on anal fingering. I can stick my middle finger all the way up her ass and rub it around, and she enjoys it. Hell, she can climax from it. She especially likes getting buttfingered when she's riding me reverse cowgirl.

So the trick is go use lots of lube, to use your pinky finger at first, to start pushing it in really slowly and gently, and to be very patient and gradual about going deeper into her ass.