More than originally was told
I’ve been married to the same lady for over 20 years. When our dating started to get more serious we discussed prior partners. During these conversations my wife admitted to about 10 partners and stated that she never had a one night stand, nothing kinky, never been with more than one man at a time or been with any married men. Since she grew up in the LA beaches area I rounded up from 10 to probably 12. My wife wasn’t the first gal I dated from that area. Also, I figured the one night stand was probably not a hard and fast rule.
A few years back an event occurred with made me wonder about all of this again and I actually relayed the story of the event on this site. I was surprised that someone recognized it and my wife. I upped the tally and figured that my wife was probably been with around 20 guys, that she did have the occasional one night stand, that she pulled a few trains, was into bondage during a phase in her early 20’s. But, I was still a little suspect of what I had learned from the guy I spoke with on this site.
That suspicion was removed a year or so ago when I happened to overhear conversations my wife was having with her sisters as they were going through some old photo albums. I had to revise upward from 20 or so to probably 25-30. Also, the one night stand rule became a loose rule of thumb. I also learned that shortly before we met she was getting focused on finding a man willing to commit to a relationship so she was dating more than one man at a time. She also dated a couple of guys who were twice her age and that she slept with 2 married men. That translates to about 5 guys per year prior to our getting together.
While I am surprised by the number my feeling is that in the end I benefited from all of the experience she gathered during this time.
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