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On this particular thread of mine, I'm giving an update. As things kind of went so shit after the "sex in car" adventure. I won't go into huge details, for privacy and boredom reasons.

Situation involved the friend again, who I will simply call "John"...
Due to some minor health issues on both my wife and I, it has us down. I have stress out the ass with work, bills, family life, the usual crap that people call "life". This is effecting my libido too. She has her own stress with work a well.

I pick up some oddities with my wife concerning John. And I check our online phone records and find out that whats NOT on her phone shows up on the logs. Some of this is about her staying at his place overnight to help out with a project (which I know is real) and sex. I feel they are playing me.

I had to balance out "letting it go" or getting to the bottom of it. I don't want to spend months or years wondering whats going on or did go on.

I put her on the spot, about missing text messages. What didn't help was that I had her phone in my hand, and I saw some texts from john about "talking to me" She responded that I was there and handed it back to me. As we continue talking, he sends a text to "delete messages!!" which I had already seen moments before. Uh Oh.
Mind you, the content he was telling her to delete was not bothering me much, it was his action.

She stands her ground that it has nothing to do with me. John tells me nothing happened as well through text. Our relationship starts going bad quickly. She tells me a bit what those missing texts were about. As it gets worse with her in tears, she finally tells him to screen shot and send whats missing. This is in front of me, while I watch and wait.

Two screen shots are sent, filling in the missing gaps on her phone which still has my conversation.
What John sent matched what she said, and then some... plus both of their concerns with my health as well as small part of a conversation which wasn't my business. Which I told them both that I would have felt the same way. And they didn't mean for me to take something the wrong way. I fucked up on my end, but they could have handled some things better on theirs which would not have led me down this path.

I still personally apologized to both in person, even without a 2nd thought took her to John’s home help him on his project over night. I didn’t have any worries.

They decide to no longer have a friendship + sexual fun relationship. Just friends.

As the weeks go by, wife is getting colder as do I. We talked a little bit, with her saying things will get better. But this past Wednesday, we were having a good time at a bar. A couple of friends show up, a couple of roommates who live in an apartment a mile from our home. They used to work at the same company my wife works. So we all play darts, drink some more ~ having a good time. She’s horny and wants me to fuck her brains out tonight. But 20 minutes later she erupted on my ass! About me making her choose us over her friend of many years before we ever meet.

Breaking up with me, taking the baby. I had hurt her, for not trusting her. She ripped into me. We're over.
This was a shock as I've been trying to repair the damage I caused the week before. Make up for my mistakes, but she has been holding in her anger all this time.

She tells me to go home, as she will not leave the bar with me. I tell the buddies (one of them has a live in girlfriend) that she is wasted, to let her sleep it off at their place since the bar is closing in an hour and don’t want to make a bigger scene.

The next morning, she doesn’t come home. But got a ride to work. She tells me to leave her alone. I’m heart broken. I fucked up with the love of my life. My sexy wife who I think about every day.

There are always challenges when it comes to swapping, open relationships, etc. She used to be jealous early on and it flipped to my side for different reasons. Communication and honesty is so important for all those involved. This is part 1 of 3. Part 2 was the weekend, Part 3 is unknown.

Preview of part 2: I went to her work to try and talk to her before other workers and customers show up. She is short with me and I leave. As I leave, I notice a reddish mark on her neck.