Originally Posted by Gnome72141
I have been trying to let my wife share her for a while now. Before we met, she wasn't promiscuous, but she was a lot more liberated and overall more relaxed sexually. She was still pretty free when she met me, but 20 years later, she is quite conservative in this area, and I can tell that she sort of misses it--we watched a low budget, "realistic" movie of a liberated couple, and ever since then, I can tell my wife misses meeting new cocks to play with. I mean, it's been 20 years!
I have been bringing it up, saying things like how I feel badly for her that I will be the last man she has sex with. She says she doesn't mind, but the more I get her to think about it, it's like it actually does bother her! And I can tell.
Anyway, after a big accomplishment in her career a few months ago, I told her she should have sex with someone besides me to celebrate. She thought I was completely joking, of course, but it got the conversation started. I told her as long as she told me all the details, I was fine it with (and I was serious, but she didn't believe me). I also told her I would prefer it be with someone she knew, rather than some Craigslist stranger or something. She thought this was intriguing.
After those few months went by, I said "Oh, so you never found a new guy to have sex with?" She smiled shyly and said, "I had thought about it, but you can't be serious." I told her I was serious, and she had a look of complete disappointment on her face when she thought maybe she really did miss her chance.
We have a really healthy sex life, very satisfying for both of us, and quality as well as quantity, but there is something about her youthful liberated self that I think we both miss. So, I have kept mentioning it off and on.
Well, this is a very stressful time for her and her colleagues in her field. She has been completely stressed out, and she mentions that she needs a serious way to relieve her stress. (I also know there is a lot of sexual freedom among her artsy-fartsy, liberal, hippie-type colleagues' personalities, though no one talks about it, of course.) Sometime during the conversation, I said, "Well, would it help to have mad, hot sex with someone else?" She said, "Honestly, ya, that would actually really help a lot!" Then she realized what she had said and covered her mouth and blushed, a lot.
I said, "Do you have anyone in mind? I am all for it as long as it's not a total stranger and you tell me the details." She said she has no idea who she would even want to do something like that with, let alone anyone who would feel the same way. I told her she might be surprised who might be up for it.
A few days later, she was venting about how stressed out she was again. During sex, I asked, "Wouldn't it be nice to be doing this rough and hard with someone else to get it all out, without worrying about paying bills, organizing schedules, and getting the kids fed tomorrow morning?" She said, "If I knew someone who would do it, I would totally be doing it right now," and she came super intensely at that moment.
After another week or so of going back and forth like this, I finally said, "There must be a colleague in your field or someone who would do you who would also need to let out some of this intense stress who would totally get it like only a colleague could! There has to be some one you could think of!" And we were standing in the kitchen at the time, and she became completely still and blushed beat red.
I said, "Oh, so there IS someone!" She didn't say anything, so I started guessing who it might be. I knew exactly who she was thinking of. There is a colleague that she sees every year or so who comes in from out of town for a month or so, and they usually share an office. He is a larger, lonely guy who only seems to date awful and mean women, and she connects with him and talks about how she feels so badly for him a lot, then he goes back out east and she doesn't mention him. I also remember he stayed with us one night a few years ago when his flight got cancelled, and she was super concerned about wearing pajamas that were rather conservative, but just the right amount of not being uptight, clearly braless but not revealing--things she never paid attention to before and hasn't since.
So, I asked if it were him she was thinking about, and she put her hands on her face and said, "Yes. I am sooooo sorry!" I asked her why she was sorry, and she said because she has actually been taking me seriously for the past week or so about having sex with someone else. I told her I have been serious this entire time.
I asked her when she was going to do him, and she said, "I would totally do him, but there is one catch that will stop the whole thing." I asked what that was, and she said, "I wouldn't want him to wear a condom, and I know I should only do someone else if he is using a condom." I replied with, "What? Of course you wouldn't need to use a condom."
She turned three shades of purple right then and there.
That was about six days ago, so we haven't talked about it since, but I can totally tell she is planning how and when this could actually happen. She also has been a lot freer again, such as she takes her bra off right after work and walks around relaxed and braless, even if people stop by to see us, which she hasn't done in about 10 years, and last weekend when her sister and her husband stayed at our place, my wife walked around in a thin white tank top and pink undies most the next morning, which she has never, ever done before, and she teased her sister for wearing a bra under her pajamas at breakfast. So, even if sharing her doesn't happen, she has really been in a great mood, and it's already a win for both of us!
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