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Originally Posted by clitty

I've been busy in the real world for the past month and shit, trying to make a living and shit.

Last June, she went to a concert music venue I didn't care about with the same Friend for which this thread was started. We talked about coming home sometime after 12... she text me she was on the way home... but in the end, she shows up around 12. Yeah, she did point out that when she left - it was with her over-night bag, but - whatever... I don't want to get into that, its been a month.

Yesterday, she brings up that she wants him to take her to another event that very night. Okay, sure... its 9pm now, bring her back by 1~2am. Even when she got in his car, we talked about her being home at 1am or so - directly from the sat. night event. Its 2:30a that she texts she going to his place for food and a drink, fine - make it quick.

Now its past 8:30am. I'm a rather unhappy husband. No text, she doesn't answer her phone or shit.

That's 3 strikes you're out. He's not able to make sure she comes home, she's to drunk or whatever to give a fuck.

So when she gets home, I'll have some words and now, I'll put my foot down for rules.
1 - All dating privileges with this friend are void.
2 - If he wants to go with us to a club to pick up chicks, sure - fine.
3 - Him taking my wife anywhere, by himself... void.

Sounds good?

No it sounds bad. But what else are you going to do. I'm thinking you've lost your wife and taking this approach will force the issue. I haven't been in a situation like this since I was a teenager and that was a very long time ago, even then I don't want to equate my teenage break-up with your marriage going tits-up. You are essentially saying to her, choose between him and me. I hope you are ready for either answer. Good luck and keep writing.