The members of this site never cease to amaze me with their sound advise and council.
Xenophile was spot on in his remarks and there is no need to expound on them further.
If we cut to the quick, I think your feelings are perfectly valid and you need to know that. I suspect that you have serious concerns about your partner's objectification of women, you in particular. In other words, the revelation that your husband enjoys porn is yet another symptom of a larger problem. If I am right, sex has become less and less of a mutually enjoyed and love affirming activity. Perhaps i might even go as far to say that it has begun to feel cheap, and the fact that he views other women and is excited by them, cheapens what you are to him.
You need to feel emboldened by your support here. Openly and honestly discuss your issues with him. I hope you discover that he is very similar to the majority of us. Porn is a benign activity that is hard wired into the male animal, a decidedly visual sexual beast. For most men, the visual is equal to the tactile. If you, unfortunately, uncover that he is an objectifier then we need to have another discussion.
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