@wired : Glad you both worked it out. Its normal to have some bumps, and any good relationship should be able to resolve those issues. Consider it a mis-communiction. Also, I too - am enjoying your stories... Hope your wife knows that men and women who are hundreds + miles away, are enjoying what you two are doing. (Yeah, you're giving me ideas)
Godlikechickposter says it. Its not about power, nor should it be. There are challenges and such for anyone who is new to sharing/open/poly (etc) relationships... and there will always be speed-bumps, as there are in ANY relationship -even if its monogamous.
I use/d logic to get to where I am. (1) people are rarely ever mono. (2) honesty and kink up front, means there should be *NO* cheating. We've all read stories or know about some John Doe cheating on his wife/GF for years, etc, etc (goes for ladies too) - is not cool, its insulting. Many such guys are jealous types who go around accusing their women of cheating or looking at another man. Typical "projection" tactic. Think about the hard-core anti-gay people, who have later been busted as being gay... LOL, go figure.
@Onestopfuckshop: Don't take this as an insult or jab... Not everyone can handle swinging or sharing. Sometimes a married couple could be a mono-man with a wife that wants open sexual relationships (There are many couples who *DO* this respectfully, happily) One of my friends is very kinky and sexual - but she can't have sex with another man, but will play with other women - even if her BF allowed her. That is her thing, got to respect that.
My wife and I are different and our rules are different than another sharing couple, etc, etc.
Because it sounds complicated to you and it seems to be more about want "you want", rather than what "you both want", you would have clashes at a Swingers club and get ejected. Yes, in swingers/open situations - the word "no" is used. I've asked to play with women and was rejected and other times, I have my fingers inside them in seconds or minutes and enjoying getting them off. You having interests or fantasies in the life-style is fine - not everyone gets there at the same time. What I do today, I didn't do 10 years... and 20 years ago, I could never have imagine the things I do (can do or would do) today.
I enjoy the mutual respect and power of the relationship with my wife. She is submissive - but is still my equal other half. Her opinions, her enjoyment, her concerns are important as are mine. We look out for each other and want to make sure the other is having fun. If having her bound to a horse, naked - while being flogged by a friend in front dozens of people *IS* fun for her as it is for me - then I make sure it happens. (Can't wait to do that again) I can't do this behind her back, and I would be very upset if she did - I trust her not to, and I don't see her doing such things behind my back. Hell, she know's I'm on this website... and that I'll post some pics up here too.
