Every once in a while with those of us in open/flexible relationships - there is a bad judgement call.
It is not to her advantage to have sex with others, without telling him first. (or anyone for that matter)
Besides a respect thing, its also a safety issue. Lets say he came over which a relative with kids... and they walked in on that action. AWKWARD!
From the post, Wired is not thrilled... seems like everyone knew he wasn't a happy camper. Nice of the new wife's peace offering, but I'd be perturbed just the same.
Even a friend of mine was upset that her girlfriend has sex with another person - because SHE didn't communicate that before hand... but worse, behind her back.
Some time ago, a women made out with me while I was passed out (drunk) - my wife was mad about it, but she didn't know I was passed out. I woke up while being kissed...and told her "Not cool. You don't have permission to do this." I thought she had just started kissing me... but in reality, she was doing it for about 10 minutes - before I was conscious enough to respond. That lead to an mild-argument with the wife - we communicated the problem and *I* was not happy of the situation either.
Respect, communication, trust is *REQUIRED* for open relationships. Otherwise, there is doubt and cheating.
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