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**2. There MUST always be boundaries.**

Picking the top lesson of this year was damned hard to do...because wow did I screw the pooch on this one. It might just be one of the hardest learned lessons of my life...and one of the most valuable. You see I tried it this year...playing without limits...giving total control to another. And as the saying goes...absolute power, corrupts absolutely. The thing is that...without limits you are saying that you do not matter, that you have no value. And if you do not value and respect yourself, demand that of the people closest to you then they will take you for granted. And it is not just in relationships either...this is true of our friendships and even our children. For a very permissive parent this was a shocking lesson but now I see that drawing lines is one of the biggest ways that we say...I love you and I love me. Yes, give...give of yourself...but never ever forget...