Well things have got a little more interesting in gaining my neighbours wifes personal confidence. My asian neighbours are both muslims - so I sent them both an e-card for their Eid festivity on Saturday. Both responded - but his went further & commented 'Am i a closet muslim?' He got my reply - basically 'Atheist' etc. His next reply turned into a rant about the West vs the muslim world (as these pricks do!) - so a couple of emails more were exchanged where he got more & more belligerent.
Today (am), I copied these to his wife in strict confidentiality - saying her husabnd was pompous & arrogant and even offensive with his attitude and pointed the finger at maybe his parents were to blame for his attitude problems citing their arrogant behaviour towards her & countering their claim she is 'ugly' by commenting that both my wife and I consider her a very pretty lady - which she is. Her in-laws seem to consider they can abuse her with outrageous comments with impunity.
Upshot is today (pm) I got a phone call from her husband apologising for his out of order email rant. I checked with her to see if she had prompted it after my email to her - she hadn't he'd done it of his own bat. She told me she appreciated very much my concern at her in-laws behaviour & it helped her self esteem to know others thought well of her.
I take it well knowing she has not discussed my confidential email with her husband and she is appreciative of my comments in her direction - so I have gained even more of her trust than I had hoped for.
This may be a slow journey, but I am sure I will get to know her more intimately as time goes on - especially as this type of muslim male has little regard for women. She says I experienced by email what she regulalry experiences - him ranting and raving having got the wrong end of the stick - only to realise his folly some time later on.
I can be very patient. Fingers crossed. Lets hope the in-laws keep on screwing up the scenario & she needs to talk. Husband seems to side with his mother - frightened to death of her.
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