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I know that many of you feel befuddled and bewildered by your wife’s aversion to being groped. You argue that you are just trying to playfully prove your sexual attraction and so cannot understand why she responds with such anger and frustration. Let me enlighten you.

The sad reality is that at some point in their lives most women have been inappropriately groped. The unwelcome experience of having her woman parts randomly man-handled like produce at a fruit stand did not send her into an orgasmic swoon; it left her feeling violated and diminished. Because of those experiences, many women now have a negative association to groping. They often perceive the act as juvenile, boorish and disrespectful even if the man now “copping a feel” is her husband. Does that mean you can never again fondle your wife to show your sexual interest? Not necessarily – but you will need to use caution.