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Originally Posted by thenewguy0713
Screw that! ...
I told her if i so much catch a wiff that she has done something..it wont be a good day for her.
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It feels like you guys don't communicate very well. Texts aren't good for meaningful conversations, and even when you describe yourselves on the phone etc, it sounds like you use a lot of ultimatums and aggressive phrasing. I think you may benefit from learning to talk to each other in a more emotionally safe way - once you get THERE, then discussions about expanding the limits of your marriage will be more constructive. Having these conversations in a rush (i.e. time pressure) is a great way to fuck up an otherwise sexy opportunity.
I'd let it lie for a few weeks, even months, then in a neutral space without anyone particular in mind, come back to it in a conversation where you talk about the abstract idea instead of an immediate casting call.
Good luck!