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I saw this on another site, I don't know who these people are, but it was a good story




Hi everyone. My husband and I are having a difference of opinion and I wanted to get some objective views... so here I am.

First of all, my husband ("Dave") and I have been married a bit over two years but have known each other for about four years. I consider our relationship excellent. In fact we joke about how our personalities compliment each other rather than being the same. Communication between us is also great.

One area that we differ on is past relationships and I suppose attitudes toward them. I was a free spirit and enjoyed exploring the world of relationships and sexuality. I never felt bad about the experiences I had. Dave was alot more reserved. So as you can expect I have had alot more "variety" than he has. Anyway, all of this was discussed way before we got married and Dave understood that he was "the guy" for me forever. Again it was all about communication. I wanted us to be completely honest with each other and we were. He's still not crazy about my past but he knows I love him with all my heart. I've introduced him to a couple of past flames (both are married now) because they are in our circle of friends and once again I wanted to be honest.

Our "intimate life" is great. I sort of took the lead in the beginning - he was a heck of a good student! I never deny him and he never denies me. We've discussed fantasies and have even tried a few. So I know he's happy.

One of his fantasies was to have some sexy boudoir photos of me. I was completely game for it. We both wanted them to be "high gloss" and "plaboyish" looking so the issue came up of how and who and where we could do this. Dave has never been too keen on having strangers "ogle" me so I suggested "Ken" (who is one of my exes that we are friends with). Ken's passion is photography and we've seen some of his work. Dave didn't initially like the idea at all but I told him that Ken is definitely a known commodity and he's a good guy who we can trust. Dave eventually agreed with me and I asked Ken if he was OK with it (and his wife!!) and he said sure.

So this past weekend we went over to Ken and Louise's home where he has a home studio. The shoot went really well. I thought I'd be nervous but I wasn't. Even when we got to the nude stage, I was past any fear and just felt sexy. Dave on the other hand was sort of nervous but eventually was OK.

At one point Ken suggested that we have a change of background so we all went to their great room. As we left his studio I was wearing a robe of course. Once we got to the other room we saw that Ken and Louise's son (1st year college) was there. Ken was nonchalant and said let's continue. So I took off the robe and we continued. The son came in and out of the room on a few occassions. It didn't really bother me because I'm pretty confident about my body and am not ashmaed of it (I've been to topless beaches). I couldn't really gauge Dave's reactions so we continued. The last few got a bit more revealing but I felt good. At some point Ken suggested that we call it a day so we did.

When we got home Dave said that he was shocked. I was truly surprised and asked him why. He said it was bad enough that Ken saw me nude but now so did their son. He said I should have stopped the shoot once we saw that the son was there. He also said that I shouldn't have done the hands and knees poses at the end.

I told him that it really is not a big deal at all and that he is over reacting but he says it is and has been upset since then.

How can I help him overcome his sense that something wrong happened when nothing wrong did?