I wholeheartedly agree with DR . . .
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Originally Posted by DRDavenport
Divorce her for cruelty. Life is too short to live with a woman like that, whatever other qualities she may have. And I can't imagine a woman that selfish having any redeeming qualities.
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Life is way too short to spend it waiting for months or years for your next bad sex episode. I would also characterize her behavior as sexual abandonment of the marriage.
Since this thread is turning into a therapy session (as opposed to the normal "hot story" thread) I'm gonna say this-- I suspect that many of you guys complaining about bad/no sex in your marriage suffer from the classic "Nice Guy" syndrome. I myself am a recovering "Nice Guy," and can commiserate with what some of you are saying, on this thread and the one from a few months ago.
I heartily recommend the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. The chances are good that if you're willing to put up with practically non-existent, awful sex you'll be reading all about yourself in his book. He explains it all very well, and also how to get the sex you want.
My sex life never got as bad as PuffyNips related, but here's a story from my first marriage~ before we said "I do" she'd flop down and fuck anytime, anywhere. On the floor of the kitchen with her folks in the living room watching TV, back seats of cars, in my bed at home, her bed at home . . . anywhere at any time. As so as we got married it was as if a big switch was suddenly flicked to the "OFF" position, and within a year it had dialed clear back to about once a month. I was 21 years old at the time and you can imagine my frustration.
Many years later it ended up like this: She began going on business trips about once every three months (I later surmised she was fucking a colleague on these trips, and finally got enough circumstantial evidence to reasonably say she did). She'd be gone for two weeks at a time, and would "give me something to tide me over" while she was gone (which was weird, since she never "tided me over" with anything while she was home). She'd lay down on the bed topless, let my stand beside the bed and jack off and cum on her tits. That was it. No kissing beforehand, no petting, no intercourse.
Pent up sexual energy has to go somewhere. Chronic masturbation, 900 numbers, flirting with other women, porn and adult book stores are common outlets. I finally started fucking a woman where I work, which turned out to be my exit affair.
You
can get the sex you want. Once you confront that fact your marriage will either take a turn for the better . . . or it won't. If it won't, move on and get happy.