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Originally Posted by magnumsixpac
Have been married for 34 years. Sex life is not!!! Last year i set it with two guys to see how far it would go with out her knowing about it. The one guy pushed to fast and did not happen but made her very horny!!!! The second starred to fall in love with her. I got thru that. If she will let herself let lose it would probably happen but its got to be with the right guy! Any thoughts how? to make this happen ????
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It's a really delicate matter to persuade your wife to take on another man. Make it a long-term project. In many ways it's a sort of a grooming exercise. I've always had a driving desire to watch another man fuck my wife - I've been very fortunate in that both of my marriages fulfilled this need. The opening step for me was to 'confess' to my wife that I'd had a really erotic dream about her... and then reluctantly letting her force me to tell her what it was about. I told her I was too ashamed to tell, but eventually admitted that it had been her having sex with me and another man. Of course she was shocked and speechless... I didn't bring it up again, and in the end her curiosity got the better of her. Who was the other man? I didn't know... just a man. Was I turned on by it? Shamefully, yes. Oh! And then I just left it. The seed was planted in her mind and it would grow. Next step was vital - when she brought the subject up again I made sure that she knew one hundred percent that I wasn't interested in any way in the third person being a woman. All of my lust focused on her. I joked that it was only a dream and that we don't have any control over them - women have fantasies about sports stars or film stars, men have fantasies about their own wives, subconscious or otherwise.
What stops a lot of women from agreeing to another man is her natural suspicion that she will be used as a bargaining chip for her husband to get his cock into the other man's wife, or that he will be entitled to some other extra-marital pussy in return. I continually reinforced my wife's confidence that I wasn't interested in other pussy... and ultimately I confessed that the idea of her pleasuring another man was a real turn-on for me. Again, I didn't press... I was in for the long game... I just let the idea grow in her mind and made sure I seized on every opportunity to develop the idea. These opportunities would usually occur in the middle of her menstrual cycle when she was ovulating. She would nibble on the bait... in the excitement of sex she would get more and more adventurous with her 'what if this' and 'what if that'... accepting my fantasies more and more as she got used to the idea. Most women get incredibly horny when they ovulate - that's the time to reel her in. My wife started asking me things like, "what would you think of me if I did it?' (so proud of you - I'd be really pleased with you! I won't be able to keep off you for months afterwards!). We began to fantasise together about it... she began to ask me who I thought would be suitable... where would we do it... and then finally, when should we do it? So at last I knew that it was no longer 'if', but 'when'! I can't describe how ecstatic I felt - my wife had agreed to let another man fuck her!
The whole timespan from the 'dream' to her agreement was about four months. It wasn't straightforward - a lot of uncertainty on her part as to my motives and a lot of questions. But it was always moving forward and deep down I knew from quite early on that she was up for it. But only when she was certain there was no ulterior motive. I would advise you to get familiar with your wife's cycle - every woman is a bit different - start your manoeuvre while she's ovulating, and any seed you can get planted, nurture it the next time... just be patient. And good luck
