[video_boy]

I just stumbled upon this topic, here in the non fiction section, and find it an utterly fascinating topic. There are several threads open on this subject but this one seems most appropriate for what I have to say on the topic.

First, I would think it very rare for a woman to be completely honest about her sexual past. Let's apply some simple logic. Guys, think of your sexual past. Now ask yourself a question: How many of the women that you have had sexual encounters with would consider the event forgettable? In other words, she might say, "Well, it was just the one time and no one really knows about it," or "I just gave him a blow job and I can't even really remember his name." I recognize that it is hard for us, as men, to think in such a way since we put such emphasis on our sexual conquests. Women, on the other hand, view the topic in a much different fashion.

There is one other factor that should be considered when assessing the validity of your wive's sexual claims. I call it the lowest common denominator. Let say that she admits to you that she swallowed an ex-boyfriend's load one night just to see what it was like or she let some guy fuck her in the ass. Let's also assume that she has never done either thing for you and you have been married to her for years. This introduces the "lowest common denominator" problem into the relationship. I've seen it a million times (not literally but you get my point). Your logic, and dare I say you are on solid ground, is that if she loves you then swallowing and anal sex should be on the table. Of course she may say, "I only did it once and I didn't like it" but good luck getting those kinds of images out of your head. There is a high likelihood that she will never mention either incident to you because she knows that those kinds of activities provide the basis of your long term sexual relationship.

It has been my experience that women only count sexual liaisons that resulted from long term relationships and/or are events that can not be wished away (ie: losing her virginity). I suspect that most women will admit to relations that we are A) likely to already know about or B) could potential be found out about through other associations and/or friends.

My wife had admitted to 4 sexual encounters prior to me. As luck would have it, I am familiar with 3 of the other guys that she admits to having slept with prior to me. The fourth being the luck fella that took her virginity. Lest you think I am only basing the above analysis on my own marriage, I think it's fair to say that the vast majority of my male fiends would agree with me.

Thoughts always welcomed.