[Stillwater]

This is a question that I have struggled with for the past twenty years or so. I registered today to post on this thread.

The first time that I can remember the thought of sharing coming up won't put me in a very good light. We were going through some changes in our life financially. I had purchased the business I had been employed with and it was a struggle at first to keep it going. I was doing everything I could to get enough work to stay afloat. I was trying to get crumbs from a large commercial developer involved with almost everything in our city. We had a conversation one day regarding some contracts coming up. There was nothing in what he said that made me feel at all confident my company would be considered. Then out of the blue he mentioned my wife and that he thought she was very attractive. He laughed and asked if she worked with me in securing deals. He added that he would enjoy spending some time with her and having her give him a presentation. I just stammered something about her being busy with her own job.

I didn't take what he said in a bad way. The suggestion was there and I could take it how I wanted. Over the next couple of days the thought of her being with him was front and centre in my mind. Just a few minutes might bring us all the money we needed to make it. I knew what he meant and I was seriously thinking I could live with it happening.

I never spoke to her about the proposition. I did get a lot of work from him eventually. It was the beginning of a big change in our relationship as a couple and individuals. She was with others, but to say I always wanted that is something I can't do.

Thank you to the originator of the thread.