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Originally Posted by newtoncreek
I got divorced three months ago, my ex was great in bed but never adventuresome. My new girlfriend "Kelly" is a co-worker, she has a crazy reputation...that's what I'm looking for, a wild girl who I don't care about (got burned by the ex, that's another story.)
One night last week we were watching a soft core late night porn on tv. Kelly mentions that the porn would be better if two guys were in it with the girl not just one. I ask her if she had ever done MFM and she said "many times".
She then asked if I would like to bring another guy in...I shook my head yes.
So she is presently setting up a "date". (she apparently has guys she can call just for this....told you she is crazy).
As I have never been in the room with another man in a sexual situation, I have a few questions about my impending MFM:
1. Can I set up ground rules ahead of time or do I let it all go (I really don't want to touch him or get his semen on me)? Is that bad form? Do I just let it play out and man up?
2. Seeing her get fucked by another man will be hot, but I assume that it will not be as good as seeing someone I love in that situation? Correct? Back when I was with my wife I fantasized about it, I feel that watching some who is "mine" and I love with another man is a whole different feeling that watching a pretty much "friends with benefits" girl in the same situation.
3. Can I insist (well maybe ask nicely) that Kelly set up a FMF threesome after this? I'm pretty she has done that and I wouldn't mind trying that out for the first time as well.
I am kind of nervous about this...this is a whole new thing for me. We are going to try to do this before Christmas but I travel a lot so I may be after New Years....I will let you guys know!
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1. Ground rules are important because you don't want to cross any boundaries you and/or she are not comfortable with. After all, you're there to have fun. The ground rules should cover what limits you and she want to set. If you don't want to cross swords with the other dude, it shouldn't be a problem. Most guys aren't into that. And the suggestion about avoiding friendly fire is a good one. Mostly the other guys are there for a good time too and won't be interested in you sexually. My best friend and I double-teamed my ex-wife, and we tended to stay at opposite ends. She blew him while I did her doggy style, and she turned around to swap us out. The women usually find a way to make it work, especially if she's experienced at it. Halfway into it, I told him not to blow his load inside her, and that distracted him so much he blew it right then (inside her) LOL So yes - don't rule out the sloppy seconds until you've tried it. If you try it and don't like it, then make that a future ground rule.
2. Love vs FWB - I don't have the kink that enjoys watching "my" woman with another man, but I don't object to it either. For me it wouldn't make a difference. I'd be there for the fun regardless of love or FWB. That's something personal you'll have to decide.
3. "Insist" is too strong. Beg or plead, maybe.
Or even suggest and express curiosity and interest. But be prepared - where most "other guys" in a MFM are there because ... well, let's be honest, because they want free sex ... another woman getting involved may not be there for you, but may be there just for her. Don't expect to get to have sex with her friend just because she's there and participating. If that's what you're looking for, you need to make sure your girl understands that. But don't be so strong about it that she thinks you just want to have sex with someone else. Make sure she knows that you want it to be all 3 of you, and that you don't want to just watch her with another girl. You also need to beware the jealousy issue here, especially if there is an attachment between the two of you. A friend told me about his wife's past life and how she used to do FMFs all the time, until her boyfriend blew his load in her friend, and she never did one again. My ex and I had 2 different MFMs and they were both awesome. We tried a FMF with her and her best friend, and afterward she had some problems with the girl/girl she had done and a bit of a problem with jealousy thinking that maybe I liked her friend better. We tried a couple swap with another couple in a group and it worked well. Everyone was distracted at just the right times to avoid jealousy and she got 2 guys instead of having to face the girl/girl again.
If they are both ok with it, set up a video camera on a tripod in the corner and enjoy yourself!! Best of luck! And share the pictures!