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Originally Posted by Larry27
 I would like to know what the men and women on OCC have to say about this.
BACKGROUND AND CONTEXT:
I need your input.
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For the men: What does your wife/girlfriend have to say about it? (IF you can get her to talk about it!)
For the married men: Has your wife changed her perspective now that you are married? If you can get it out of her, what do your wife's friends say?
Be honest. If you don't know, don't guess. Just because she ACTS like she likes it, that does not mean she really does. Even if we realize they are only doing it to please us, there is a whole new element of cool about that!
What say you? |
My wife is a bit complicated. She enjoys appearing extremely conservative publicly, but is willing to be somewhat adventurous behind closed doors. Honestly, it took us 7-8 years together to come to an agreement on blowjobs
I don't get bj's as regularly as I'd like, but just enough to keep me content, and they're very, very good. However, if I said she'd never have to do it again, she'd probably be fine with that.
The main thing is she doesn't like having control. Me laying back getting pleasure is fine with her, but being in control isn't in her comfort zone at all, though she'll do it. I've found making noise and moaning loud and various other things reassure her. However, there's different ways of going about it.... the other day she was laying down thinking she'd rub me out over her tits, when instead I grabbed her hair and fucked her mouth. She doesn't necessarily like that, but is definitely more okay with that type of oral sex and, in fact, orgasms quite wildly when I finish.
Seriously, I use to stop when I'd hit her gag reflex and ask if she was okay, but she'd be more upset with the interruption than me forcibly shoving my member in her throat. 10 years in and I'm still learning how to work with a very sexually submissive wife who won't verbalize her desires.
As for past girls, 50/50. I'd say for every one that was on the "enjoyed it" team, there was one on the other side. One chick would do just about anything to keep me around, except swallow, never enjoying anything but knowing I'd stay for another day. My very last gf before I met my wife wasn't a virgin, but still very inexperienced. I hate to put it this way, but I taught that girl to love oral sex as much if not more than intercourse and she fucking loved it. Every guy she's done since me, owes me
